How Aditya Adopted Avnish

Back in 2014, Aditya Tiwari, aged 26, was distributing sweets on the occasion of his father's birthday at an orphanage of the Missionaries of Charity in Indore when he first spotted Binney. Binney had made the orphanage his home after being abandoned by his parents from Bhopal because he had a hole in his heart and suffered from Down's syndrome. 

 

"There were a lot of kids at the orphanage when I was distributing a few things there; however Binney caught my eye because he was lying on a cat away from all the revelry. When I went to play with him, he held my finger and wouldn't let go. I instantly felt affection at that moment, however truth be told I didn't think of adopting him then." Tiwari explains. 

 

The exact moment when he decided he would adopt Binney came barely a month later when he revisited the orphanage and found out that while many other children had been adopted, no family was willing to take Binney as their own. Suddenly, Tiwari knew Binney would be his son. Unfortunately, it wasn't as easy as he thought it would be. 

 

As expected, there were several roadblocks in store for him. Initially, his parents objected to the idea. It took them quite a while to warm up to the idea of their unmarried son adopting a child with special needs. Then there were the orphanage authorities who told him that they could not let a single man adopt a kid as The Missionaries of Charity were against single-parent adoptions. 

 

Having made up his mind, Aditya was not one to give up. For the next few months, he kept revisiting the orphanage in order to convince the sisters about his intentions. He also went ahead and contacted the Ministry of Women and Child Welfare Department (WCD) and even sent over 100 emails to Maneka Gandhi. The move paid off as the ministry wrote back to him informing that in India, the legal age for an unmarried man to adopt a child is 30 years. But, Tiwari was unwilling to wait for 4 more years. 

 

He thus complained to the Prime Minister's Office, wrote to some members of Parliament and human rights activists asking that the age-limit be amended so he could adopt the boy at the earliest. He even met the boy's biological parents to understand why they deserted and was shocked to learn that they were financially capable of handing Binney, but abandoned him because they feared being an embarrassment to the society due to his condition. Hearing that, Tiwari was even more resolved to father Binney. He once again petitioned the PMO and WCD. 

 

What happened next was one of the turning points in Tiwari's life. Sometime in August 2015, the laws of adoption were amended and the age limit for single men to adopt children was reduced to 25. (Government officials claim that Tiwari's case was a crucial catalyst.) Understandably, Tiwari was elated when he heard of the change and a ream of government officials got to work to conduct a detailed background check on him. 

 

And, finally on December 2015, after struggling for 15 months, Tiwari received a mail that instructed him to take Binney home in the first week of January. Binney who is now approximately 3 and half years old has been christened as Avnish Tiwari by his father. 

Courtesy: Business Insider India

Why Adopt a Child?

Because life offers so many memorable moments, sometimes it is hard to realize how special they are without a child there to remind us. The joy a father sees in his son’s eyes when he attends his first baseball game, or the excitement a mom sees on her daughter’s face the first time she sees the top of a cloud from an airplane window – these are moments made special because of the presence of a child.

Adoption has given and continues to give people like Ted the opportunity to lead fulfilling, meaningful lives alongside their children, and in turn, provides children opportunities in life once thought unachievable. It's natural for people who are adopted to wonder about their birth families (also called biological families) and where they came from. This curiosity often becomes more intense as part of the process of self-discovery that happens during the teenage years. Sometimes there are health reasons, or other important reasons, for searching for one's birth family.

Adoption is the creation of a new, permanent relationship between an adoptive parent and child. Once this happens, there is no legal difference between a child who is adopted and a child who is born into a family. Birth parents have many different reasons for putting children up for adoption. Some decide that they want better lives for their kids than they feel they can provide. Some feel their child would do better living in another country. Sometimes parents just can't take good care of a child because of illness or other difficulties. Many birth parents say that having their child placed for adoption with another family is the most difficult thing in the world, but that sometimes it is truly in the child's best interests.

Every Adoption Is Different

Families of all kinds adopt kids of all kinds, from babies to teens. Kids may be adopted by a relative, foster parent, or a completely new family. An adoptive family might be a single parent, a couple, or a family with kids.

Adoptions can be arranged by adoption agencies or handled independently (where the parties involved work through an adoption attorney or private center). An increasing number of adoptions are taking place internationally, with people adopting kids from a different country.

Adoptions are subject to the laws of different states and countries. Some adoptions are confidential (also called closed adoptions), which means that neither the birth nor adoptive parents know the others' identities. Other adoptions are handled more openly. Open adoptions, where both parties have some level of contact with each other, are becoming more common.

As views about adoption change, the secrecy and confidentiality surrounding adoption is giving way to openness in which birth parents are more likely to be involved in the process. This can mean anything from choosing the family they want to adopt their child to keeping in touch with that family as the child grows up.

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